Self in Relation to others

i) There is frequently one normative narrative that occurs around the topic of race. This normative narrative is that children are innocent, and that they do not see colour. This is demonstrated throughout the self stories about race written by Andrea P, Sara T, and myself. In all three of the self stories we all had different experiences, yet they were all very similar. As stated in Sara’s self story “[w]e are all the same, I never knew there was a difference”. This speaks to the childhood innocence I discussed in my self story when I stated that “prior to this I did not recognize the different skin colours within my own family.” Children recognize the subtle differences in skin colour, although I believe this occurs subconsciously. Children must be taught to treat those with different skin colour then themselves differently.

The idea that children do not understand the complexity of the significance that skin colour bares on ones status in society, is perfectly demonstrated in Andrea’s self story when she says “in México, everyone has mixed skin colour, but the darker the skin, the more you can get racialized or bullied as a kid or even as an adult.” In Andrea’s story her father racialized her best friend because she had darker skin. Andrea did not even take into consideration the colour of the girls skin, when she decided they would be friends, she decided purely on the fact that the girl was nice to her. This continues to prove the point that “children do not see colour”. Obviously children can see the difference in skin colour, although that does not effect how they treat that person unless they have been taught to treat that person differently. Children are innocent, until they are taught differently. I believe all three of these three self stories share the same normative narrative about race.

ii) Sean after reading the story Sean shared about his encounter with race in his family, I started to see similarities between our two stories. Even though our stories are drastically different both still challenge the same common normative narratives about race in Canada. Some of the similarities between our stories are that we both have family members who have different skin colour then us, our family members faced diversity and racism growing up, and until we were told otherwise we were unaware of the differences between skin colour. Sean says in his self story that “television would have shown me that people with different skin colour existed, although perhaps I did not notice or care.” (Sean, 2018) As children grow up they develop mannerisms from those they see around them. Children pick up on the slightest differences of body language. As they see the differences of how adults interact with people of different races they start to see differences of how to act. Children will treat everyone the same, until they are shown that you can treat others differently.

For those who did not read the article Parents angry Montreal Teachers Wore Headdresses on 1st day of School this article was about how some teachers at a school in Montreal made a poor decision of wearing headdresses, and using headdresses in a way of helping students identify which class they would be in. I feel that the teachers had the right idea of trying to incorporate Indigenous culture into the classroom right from the first day of school, although I do believe that the teachers had poor follow through of their idea. “[I] felt kind of awful telling my nervous kids about how disrespectful it was, all the while hoping they like their new school!” (Enos, 2016) This quote helps reinforce how children are a clean slate. In this quote if the children had not been told that this was an inappropriate activity, the children would not have known any better. I am by no means saying not to educate your children, it is a crucial aspect of raising kids. Although this just goes to show how you choose to explain complicated topics, such as race, effects how your children grow up and who they become.

There are plenty of normative narratives that surround race. The only way to change these normative narratives are to effect change in the next generation. As educators we need to teach children, that yes everyone is equal, that skin colour does not matter, and slowly the normative narratives will change.


Brock Turner Response

What story is told if we think gender neutral washrooms will lead to rape?

  • The story that is being told if we think gender neutral washrooms will lead to rape is a complicated one. The story that is being told is that basically everyone is a rapist. It changes how we view the world almost. It causes us to view the world differently, that nobody is pure at heart almost. That nobody would use the bathroom to pee. Honestly I have no words about how to explain this.

Self Story #4- Gender

I have always been somewhat running against the “Gender Norm”. Growing up and I still am a “Tomboy”. My mom likes to tell me that when I was younger (like age 5 or 6) the age where most girls would be playing with Barbies, I was not interested playing with my Barbies at all, rather I would just play with the Horses that came with the Barbies. Also my mom likes to remind me quite frequently that I wouldn’t play with Polly Pockets. Instead I would play with Dinosaur and Zoo Duplo. Growing up I was definitely not your “typical” white girl. I grew up with an older brother who treated me like a younger brother (if that makes sense). We would rough house, play outside, playing different sports and we were always in competition. To continue my streak of growing up against the Gender norm I played hockey, which has always been a huge part of my life.

 This photo is from my first season of playing hockey (2004-2005).

One of my most vivid memories comes from when I was in grade 3. Me and another girl got into a huge disagreement one day. Our disagreement occurred because she felt I was lying when I said I played hockey. She continued to tell me that hockey was only for “Boys”. I had to continuously tell her, no that girls can play hockey too. This disagreement went on for the whole school year. Remembering that this happened still gets me fired up. Although reflecting on this story makes me think about the gender norms that played into her life. The girl that got me fired up about this fit right into the gender norm. She loved dresses (I hated and still do hate wearing dresses), she was a competitive dancer (I did FADA dance which focuses less on technique and more on movement), she was a singer (when I sing I sound like a beached whale), and she loved everything “girly” (while I hated everything “girly”). I now understand why she struggled to understand why girls could play hockey, it was because she had a hard time seeing outside of the gender norm.

This is a photo of me from the 2007-2008 season, the year this girl and I had the disagreement.

I have always been comfortable with my gender, I was born a female, I am a female, and I am straight. Although I have never fitted into the typicalness of females, that you have to wear pink, play with Barbies and wear dresses. I have always been a Tomboy, and let’s be real, I will always be a Tomboy. Growing up as my parents would say I was a fish swiming up stream, and that is not going to change any time soon.

 This photo was taken during my last season (2016-2017) of minor hockey while at a hockey tournament in Kimberly, B.C.

Reflection on the out of class activity

For the out of class activity our professor wanted us to go experience something outside of the classroom. Sara Tokarz and I could not attend any of the presentations or movies, so we  decided to go to Royal Saskatchewan Museum


While at the museum Sara and I explored quite a bit. We were both quite impressed with how extensively the history of Indigenous people in Canada was covered. There are many artifacts from different eras. The photo above was taken in front of one of the exhibits, which discussed the importance of Teepee’s in Indigenous culture.

This field trip was very informative about Saskatchewan’s history with Indigenous people. It was very interesting as I had the opportunity to learn some new facts that I didn’t know prior to this adventure.

Settlers Guide to the Universe Questions

Activity one

  1. We feel that numbers 3,5,6,7,8,9,11,19,20,22,28,31,33,34,35,37  are a part of the national common sense.
  2. We didn’t check the number we didn’t because we believe that these ideologies were true in the past, and will be true in the future, although they are not true in the present.
  3. Numbers 1,13,14,15,16,18,21,23,24,25,27,29 bothered us because they are so against the progress we have made in society so far.
  4. We all have to go to university to get a good job

Activity 2

We notice number 16 a lot because famous people and models are all in magazines so we want to be like them.

Seeing “Whiteness” Questions

These answer are also posted on the blog of my partner for this project (Jenny McEwen and Sara Tokarz)

  1. Seeing whiteness is difficult because we have lived our whole lives benefitting from white privilege whether or not we were aware that we had that privilege. We have grow up with this “whiteness” is hard to see because we have never been taught about whiteness and its what we have grown up seeing
  2. The purpose of exposing ourselves to “whiteness”  is seeing the world. It is important to educate us on how much “whiteness” is actually around us in everyday life. If you’re a minority you see “whiteness” everywhere, and if you’re not you see it less because you are seeing your population more represented.
  3. After reviewing Peggy Mcintosh’s article we felt that it was conclusive therefore we have nothing to add to her list.

Here are three examples of “whiteness” that we saw walking around the University. In all three of these photos there is only representation of white culture.

Do you live in a teepee?

The five themes in this article are encountering expectations of primitiveness, enduring unconstrained voyeurism, withstanding jealous accusations, experiencing curricular elimination or misrepresentation, living with day to day cultural and social isolation. These all add to micro-aggressions, which are small acts of racism which some people don’t even recognize that they are doing them.

After reading this article, it caused me to start thinking about micro-aggressions that I have seen around my high school and university. I honestly believe that people are not even aware that they are performing micro-aggressions. Now that I am aware that micro-aggressions exist, I will ensure that I change my habits, to ensure I never do one again. I will also bring it to the attention of those who perform one, to try and stop the vicious cycle.